“I’m Sorry?”: 5 Things Men Do & The Real Reasons Why They Do Them

Words by Tony Grands

Ladies, “Cuffing Season” is right around the corner & it’s probably time to do some personal inventory. With that inventory should come a renewed sense of what may need to be done in order to snag that guy you’ve had your eye on all summer. Continue reading

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This is Gregory Joseph Leary. He’s 20 years old. He, & a group of boys/men sexually violated a 7 & 15 year old pair of stepsisters in Trenton, New Jersey last weekend. The reason I’m showing his face & name is because, of the arrests made so far, he’s the only one of legal age. The ages of the (alleged) offenders ranges from 13 to 20. For all we know, this guy was the ring leader, if you will. So, he wins the “prize” of free publicity, courtesy of Reading & Writing Is For Dumb People.

The 15 year old girl was invited to a gathering on March 28, & agreed to attend, bringing her 7 year old stepsister, whom she was babysitting, with her. For reasons far beyond my realm of logic, the 15 year old girl decided to whore herself out to a group of men there, for money. Which, in itself isn’t that bad. 15 year olds don’t know much, but they’re old enough to know right from wrong. If she decided to engage in prostitution, that’s her mother & father’s problem, not mine. However, she decided to allow the men to touch her stepsister, also for money. At that point she became a pimp to a child that isn’t even old enough to have a menstrual cycle, much less have sexual intercourse, consenual or otherwise. The men & boys, being the fucking animals they are, weren’t content with molesting the poor girl, & began to rape her. All of them.

They told her, the 7 year old child, if she screamed, they would kill her.

The girl’s stepsister has been hit with several charges so far, but as far as I’m concerned, she is just as, if not more so, guilty as the punks who gang raped an innocent, defenseless child. The police are apparently working dilligently towards more arrests, so we’ll see how this turns out. Curiosly enough, the girls’ grandmother has reported death threats to her family as a result of the police intervention. In other words, they’re mad at the girls for getting the police involved. Ain’t that a bitch?

I just wanted to share this with y’all, & my folks who eff with me in or near New Jerz have probably heard about this already. This is by far the most heinous shit I’ve heard of in quite some time. My daughter is 9, & I can’t even begin to fathom being the parent of the girls, or being one of the “men” who decided to do such a thing. I’m careful with my words, because I know about the potential power they have, but I really hope something horrific happens to all those who took part in this savage act. Even the 15 year old sister. Fuck all that “she’s young” shit. She should’ve known better. This whole situation is an epic, societal failure, devoid of any type of light.

God bless us, mayne…

Smarten Up…

In biblical times, women were property. According to the bible, they were fine with that, or as fine as the author(s) would have us believe. So in theory, cats been thinking women were stupid & unnecessary for so long, that eventually we started to believe it. At that time, women believed it, too. Granted, it was thousands of years back, but after Jesus was born, walked the Earth, crucified, then ascended, the woman’s subserviant attitude began to dissipate, slowly but fa’ sholy.

Man’s attitude, on the other hand, only got worse, as we modernized weapons & colonized lands & people & further claimed ownership, by force in most instances, to whatever we wanted. In the meantime, as with the human species in general, women continued to evolve, in their own way.

Fast forward.

Our great grandfathers, still with an archaic sense of command & a slight slave mentality overflow, put our great aunt’s & great grandmother’s in a similar position, as chattel, except this was not ancient times. Women stopped being the “stupid” property they had been, & that was documented fact. Several decades later, they began tapping the core of the inner strength that allows them to bear children, & bleed for days without dying. I truly believe there’s a divine reason why women give birth instead of men, but that’s for another day.

Fast forward again.

Nasir bin Olu Dara Jones becomes the poster man for what you don’t want to happen to you. He underestimated the level of intelligence he married, thusly, is being sodomized, legally. Normally, this is where I toss out a “NaS picks his women like he picks his beats,” but it’s not about him, per se. It’s about the survivalist instincts that kick in when a women feels threatened. That same piece of property has evolved into a cunning creature, with the ability to crush a man’s soul without so much as chipping an airbrush-painted, rhinestone-covered talon. & it’s not because they’re smarter than us, so much as we’ve convinced ourselves that they’re dumber than us, if you smell my cologne. Young dudes be warned: nothing in life is free, & you’ve never “got” the cooch. She gave it to you. The ulterior motive depends on where her head is (pun intended), but the outcome is usually the same. Power & control. Even the most unintelligent human being will find way to survive, mentally & physically, so don’t be so quick to fall prey to a woman under the mistaken nonchalance that she’s just a “stupid bitch.”

I’ve said it before I’ll say it again; the right woman on your side is a powerful ally. The wrong woman can & will be your downfall. What we think is a loose booty sperm catcher is a hustler, really though. & a true hustler’s greatest weapon is under estimation. Most times, the signs are there. In NaS’ case, he chose not to listen. Twice.

Bottom line, us men gotta stop treating our women like shit, starting with our daughters. The grown women, obviously beyond help are a lost cause. If the chain is breakable, it starts at the first link, so to speak. Whether we want to believe it or not, women are powerful. If you haven’t had the misfortune of personally finding out how powerful, consider yourself lucky, my friend. & tread lightly. The 5 minute factor is never too far away.