Ashley Kirilow Is The Real Rick Ross The Rapper

Cats think Rick Ross The Rapper is a fraud? Nah, mayne. Meet Ashley Ann Kirilow. She’s Canadian, which means she’s probably smarter than most Americans by the grade curve, and is genetically designed to beat the shit out of things with sticks. It also means that she has free health care in Ontario. Remember that.

Ashley developed breast cancer in 2008, & thanks to the uber-cyberspace we live in, she let it be known worldwide. She had a Facebook page for her unregistered charity, ‘Change’ For Cure, & raised tens of thousands of monies from various outlets & organizations that pledged dedication to her cause, & more importantly, fighting cancer in general. Ashley even convinced a cancer awareness organization to help her raise over $20,000 to fly her to Disneyworld. To help the volunteers, relatives, friends, family, & anonymous supporters feel truly connected to Ash & her struggles, she frequently updated her Facebook status, showing the graphic effects of her chemotherapy sessions, including hair loss, pale skin, & weight loss.

By this time, Ashley had become somewhat of a national celebrity, when she asked her mother for some money to help with her medical procedures. Oddly enough, her mother reminded her of the free health care in Canada, then informed her father that she felt something was not right with their daughter’s story. With that silly oversight, the jig was up.

Ashley didn’t have cancer. She made up the story with self-admitted hopes of getting her family back together. Really though, I can understand. It’s like that episode of that show one show where the kid pretends to break his arm so his parents will be so concerned with his injury that they’ll forget they hate each other’s guts. Except, this is real life, & Ashley has taken a lot of money from a lot of well-meaning, kind hearted, good sumaritans. Yikes. If this was an episode of My Name Is Earl she would’ve gotten hit by a car by now, & her magic lotto ticket would be lost forever. But again, this is real life.

Ashley was arrested for charges of fraud on August 7, when she decided to turn herself in to authorities. If convicted, she’d better start getting her rap-writing skills on point, because she’ll have 2 years to impress Drake enough to put her on his label roster. (Because face it, folks: Drake will absolutely, positively have his own record label by then.) Since her “capture,” Ashley has blamed a lousy childhood & her parents faulty relationship for her horrid decision making skills. Not for nothing, but if you can’t decided right from wrong at 23 years of age, there’s a good chance that that is the reason for a parental separation to begin with. I have a lot of cousins, & let’s just say that stupid kids can be mad stressful. Chances are they’ll be bailing you out of jail & raising your children in no time, if they aren’t doing both already. Hey, Ashley’s already halfway there! To add insult to injury, the family has said, publicly, that they won’t support Ashley through her trial, & when it’s all said & done, her parents still aren’t together.

Again, cats call Rick Ross The Rapper a fraudulent, fake, hoax of a man. Well, at least he didn’t tug my heart strings to get my attention. No homo.

Speaking Of 50 Cent…


When I first saw those pictures of 50 Cent, in character for his new movie about a cancer patient, my mind immediately went to how awesome of a disease Cancer truly is. Actually, my first thought was how 50 looks just like Wood Harris in ‘Remember The Titans’ now, but, my next thought was about Cancer.

Of the 4 grandparents I was born with, 3 were killed by Cancer. Both paternal grandparents, & my maternal grandfather. My paternal grandmother died when I was 3, & I recently (within the last few months) found out that she was done in by the Big C. My dad’s one of those dudes who just ignores unhappy things, almost to a fault, so it’s no surprise that the very untimely death of his mother has always been an off-limit subject in our family. Funny thing, my dad never really talked about his mother when my brother & I were growing up. Very rarely. As I got older though, with a family of my own, only now does he feel comfortable enough to tell me stories about my Nana. All these years I thought she had a heart attack. How intense is a man’s love for his mother that it took him 3 decades to talk to his first born son about her life, after death? I’m sure this is why, my whole life, no matter how alien my mom’s behavior, my pops always stressed that you only get one. Then, he’d start arguing with her in defense of me doing whatever. Good times.

My dad’s dad was an army man. Fought in World War II & the whole nine. Now that I’m a man, my dad has told me some hellish stories about my grandfather. The kinds of the things you’re not supposed to know until they’re dead, if you smell my cologne. Anyway, he was diagnosed with lung cancer, or rather, I found out he had it when I was about 11 or 12, on the way to get him from an appointement, but it was already in it’s late stages. Not too much more to do but let him go home.

I broke my tibia in junior high school, & my grandfather took me to, & picked me up from school for 6 months. He told me I looked like a girl when I got my ear pierced. He introduced me to (then) Mayor Tom Bradley. Bought me my first microscope & computer. He was pretty much the grandfather everybody wants to have as a kid; Jazz, Benson & Hedges cigarettes & a Cadillac.

My last memory of him alive was at my 13th birthday. I remember how uncomfortable it was for him to get out of bed, let alone travel distances in a car, but he sure was at that party. In fact, he probably knew time wasn’t on his side too much longer. He sat on the living room couch, while all the kids & adults moved to & fro, & lit up a smoke. What could you possibly tell a World War II vet, who has already been diagnosed terminal? Nothing. & that’s exactly what was said to him.

A few months later, he passed at my uncle’s house. Before my aunt called the Coroner Van, she called all the families to come to the house. So, there we were, generations of relatives, all hanging out, talking, playing, while my grandfather laid in his bed. Watching over us all one last time, so to speak, if you believe in that type of thing. To this day, I can’t recall one detail about his funeral.

Those 50 Cent pictures took me back to the first time I found out about my grandfather. We picked him up from the hospital, & he looked a lot like that. Creepy.

A Brother’s Love


With the death of Keith Elam, a/k/a Guru, on April 20, 2010, there’s been a lot of controversy, namely about the handling of his sickness & his passing, surrounding a self-proclaimed “super producer” & apparent close friend of Guru’s named Solar. He’s arguably the most despised man in Hip Hop right now, but that’s neither here nor there. With all the unnecessary hate swirling around during a time that should be filled with love, honor & remembrance, I found this letter, written by Guru’s older brother Harry Elam, Jr., floating around the ‘Nets. I figured I’d share it.

This is how Keithy E.’s legacy should be remembered, as opposed to the disastrous douchebaggery that Solar has ignited. Oh, & Solar admitted, in a roundabout way, that he edited Guru’s dying words. Just saying. As a “bonus,” for the sake of conversation, here’s a prophetic clip of Guru & Solar in 2008. It’s interesting, to say the least.

Harry Elam on his brother Keith:

“Positivity, that’s how I’m livin…” So goes the lyric from my brother’s early hip-hop song, ‘Positivity.’ My brother Keith Elam, the hip-hop artist known as GURU-Gifted Unlimited Rhymes Universal-died this week at the too-young age of 48 because of complications from cancer. ‘Positivity’ was what he sought to bring to the music and to his life, and for me that will be a large part of his legacy.

In February of this year, my brother went into a coma, and I traveled across the country from my home in California to see him. At his bedside, I stood and stared at his overly frail frame, his head that he had kept clean-shaven for the last 20 years uncommonly covered with hair, his body connected to a sea of tubes and wires. I listened to the whirl of machines around us and took his hand. As I did, my mind flashed back to now-distant times, so many memories. And I saw us as teenagers at the beach on Cape Cod playing in the water together. And I saw us as boys, driving to school. My brother was five years younger than me, so we attended the same school only for one year, my senior year, his seventh grade year, at Noble and Greenough School, and I would often drive us both to school. Invariably, I made us late, yet my brother, never as stressed as me, was always impressively calm. At school he endured the jests and teasing from the other boys about being my “little brother.” I was president of the school and had charted a certain path at Nobles. But my brother found his own creative route at school, as he would throughout his life. His journey was never easy, never direct, but inventive. Through it all he remained fiercely determined with a clear and strong sense of self.

Over the years I had proudly watched my brother perform in a wide variety of contexts. While at Nobles, we had a black theatre troupe known as “the Family.’ In 1973, we put on a play entitled ‘A Medal for Willie,’ by William Branch, and because he was only in the seventh grade, Keith played only a small role, but even then you could see his flair for performance, his comfort on the stage. At home, our older sister Patricia would teach him the latest dances, and he would execute them with verve as I watched from the sidelines, impressed with his moves, and not without a few twinges of jealousy since I’ve always had two left feet. As a teenager he raced as a speed skater. I do not remember how he became involved in the sport; I only remember traveling with my family to watch his meets in the suburbs of Boston. I do not remember if he won or lost, I do know that he always competed with great ferocity and commitment.

When he announced to me that he was dropping out of graduate school at the Fashion Institute of Technology to pursue a career in rap, I thought he was making a grave mistake and warned him against it. But as always he was determined, and in the end he would succeed beyond perhaps what even he had imagined. Early on in his rap journey, he visited me in Washington., D.C., over a Thanksgiving weekend. I was teaching at the University of Maryland then, and we went to what was perhaps the most dreadful party we had ever attended. As we hastened out the door, I apologized for bringing him to this party. My brother replied “let’s write a rap song about it,” and we did. The lyrics made us laugh as we collaborated on the rhyme scheme and rode off into the D.C. night. It is one of my fondest memories, this spontaneous brotherly moment of collaboration and play.

Keith’s big break came with Spike Lee’s film ‘Mo’ Better Blues,’ with his song ‘A Jazz Thing’ underscoring the credits. I watched that film over and over again just to hear my brother at its end. Soon he was on to creating his first Jazzmatazz album with others to follow, and he became credited for creating a fusion between jazz and hip hop. To be sure, that fusion owes something to our grandfather Edward Clark and Keith’s godfather, George Johnson, who introduced Keith to jazz by playing their favorite albums for him. He credits them both on his first Jazzmatazz. That first Jazzmatazz album featured musical heroes of my youth, Roy Ayers, and Donald Byrd, and here was my brother featuring them on his album. And with this success, came tours. I have seen him perform all over the world, and each time he would give a shout out from the stage to his brother and my wife, Michele. And I was so proud. It sometimes struck me with awe that all these people were there to see my brother. I watched him deal out magic; he was in his element feeling the crowd, and them responding to his groove. This was my baby brother, the kid with whom I once shared a room. The kid whose asthma would cause him to hack and cough and wheeze at night keeping me up. But when I would complain, my parents would send me out of the room. The message was clear: Love your siblings, whatever their frailties. Shorter than me and slighter of build, my brother suffered from asthma and allergies his whole life, but he was always a survivor.

Back in 1993, when he played at Stanford University, I was in perhaps my third year as a professor there. As I walked into the auditorium that night, the assembled audience of students looked at me with a new awareness, “that’s the Guru’s brother,” not that’s Professor Elam, but the Guru’s brother.

And I was, and am, the Guru’s brother. I admired and loved him deeply, my little brother. And I was and am so proud of him, and how he made his dreams reality . And with the outpouring of love that has crowded my e-mail with his passing, I know that he touched so many with his music. My brother cared deeply about family. He raps of my parents in more than one song. They are featured on his video ‘Ex girl to next girl.’ It was one thing seeing my brother on MTV; it was another seeing my parents. His son K.C. was the joy of his life.

The doctors told me back in February that there was not much chance of my brother recovering from the coma. But my brother has always been a fighter, always been one to overcome surprising adversities, so this seemed just one more. We prayed that he would again prevail. But it was not to be. Still his drive, his spirit, his energy, his positivity will live on, and so will his music. “that’s how I’m livin…’ -via Boston.com