Maybe I’m not as open minded as I think I am.

I came across a female yesterday, talking especially loud on her cell phone about some type of relationship problems she was having with her (actual) girlfriend. Normally, I tune out the ambient noises of urban living (except for gunshots & sirens), but the shrill, high-pitched pierce of her voice sparked my curiosity. Not only did I intend to step up my eavesdropping, but now I turned to look.

I saw a young Black girl, dressed like a young Black boy, using all types of unlady-like language to describe the love/hate conflict between her & another young lady. I’m positive I even heard her murmur “with a strap-on” at least twice. If this was porn I was watching, right about now would be the time I start really “paying attention,” but this wasn’t a couple of impossibly sexy lesbians about to have a tantalizing pillow fight. This was real life. & this was a Black girl lost.

Lost, as in misguided & without direction, which may or may not be directly affected by her obvious affinity for other females. I could even go so far as to call it coincidence, & it still wouldn’t change my assessment of the situation. More & more, I see these young girls who have been swept into some strange, backwards world, where the true essence of being a woman is completely discarded like a used sanitary napkin. I kind of understand how Black women felt a couple of decades ago, when they’d look at each other at beauty salons & nail shops & rhetorically ask one another where’d the Black men go. Perhaps that unanswerable question is one of the causes for what I’m writing about now. Go figure.

What I see is a generation of girls who grew up with absentee fathers, drug-addled uncles & lackadaisical step dads, & to counterattack the substantial, subconscious pain that was caused, they, themselves, become the “men” they never had. I understand “gay is here to stay,” & what have you, but I’m talking about these young girls who would rather be dudes, not the free-spirited souls who refused to be caged in by only one sexual preference. They would “rather be dudes” so much so that they challenge “other” men, like an animal protecting it’s territory, at every opportunity. God forbid I see, what I perceive to be, a pretty girl with her homegirl out in public. I’m sorry, married or not, I notice nice looking people. If I wasn’t supposed to, my eyes would be in my wife’s purse instead of my testicles, if you smell my cologne. Anyway, what would have genuinely been her homegirl, 20 years ago, is now her lover, & these lover’s go out of their way to mimic men so tediously that I find myself rubbing my beard out of spite. For the record, I’m a proponent of Equal Rights. Stare at me long enough, & sexual orientation has nothing to do with an ass whipping. & not for nothing, but butch lesbians, in most cases, are tougher than actual men. That’s that “something to prove” attitude that gets people murdered in broad daylight. I remember when I was 9, there was a girl in our neighborhood who could pee standing up, like a dude. We all watched her do it. If she ever registered & trademarked that move, she’d be a billionaire, just from L.A. sales alone.

Back to the broad on the cell phone. Turns out that the chick she was talking to has a daughter that goes to my son’s school. It took me a minute to place her face, but I’d seen her at the school numerous times. The last time I saw her, she had her hair in 2 pony tails, wearing basketball shorts down to her high-top Nikes, which complimented the over-sized white t-shirt she wore. Somebody should tell these chicks that sports bra’s can’t hide what the good Lord blessed you with. Not even in a 4XL Pro Club. So, not only is this chick really confused about her sexuality (not that there’s anything wrong with that), but her girlfriend, who doesn’t appear any more stable than she does, allows her daughter to be exposed to them kissing & cuddling in public. I’ve seen it. But, like I said, maybe I’m not as open minded as I think I am. If little Black girls start growing up with 2 gay moms & an obscure perception of the Black man’s role in the family & community, there’s no telling what type of societal turbulence we could be flying into. Let us remember that the Black man is still having an identity crisis of his own, on several different fronts.

I don’t have a problem with homosexuality. However, I do have a few problems with woman who like other woman, can’t stand men, & yet do everything in the power to emulate manhood. The flip side of that coin is, if a woman decides she’s gay, then settles for a relationship with another female who all but has a real penis, isn’t that a hypocritical waste of time? I don’t know much about lady-thinking, but it seems man-filled condom>>>jelly-filled sex toy any day of the week. I don’t get it. But, it’s probably not meant to be figured out in the first place, huh?

On a related note, us men need to own some responsibility as to how these girls/women get treated in the real world. Daughters, moms, children’s mothers, etc. Just saying.